Thursday, February 16, 2012

Managing a home with a positive spirit

Do you have days where it feels everything is just collapsing around you?  Days where everything coming at you is negative, draining and filled with frustration. The moans, complaints,  constant listening,  and always having to be on board at your best.  If you do you are not alone. 

This picture seems like me sometimes at home trying to stay on top of things and not to get dragged down by others.
One thing I have learnt though is that........

Having a positive outlook even when things seem to beat down on you is imperative.  How can we as mum/women remain positive and have good emotional health amongst all this battering and to be able to follow your dreams.

Taking a sleep always feels like a good option :)  but unfortunately the problem is still there when you wake up.  sigh......

I have found some things that work well
  • Take time out daily.  Even if it is only listening to a piece of music you love or reading a chapter of a book.  I have had to become very creative to get my reading time (as I am a book worm)  I have book on the toilet that I read 2 pages of when I use the loo.  It takes me a while to get through a book but at least I can get a little bit of time to read.
  • Remember that you are the manager of the house.  Would you let your staff treat you like dirt?   I certainly wouldn't.  It doesn't matter whether it is a child or an adult in your home protect yourself.  Be direct though IE I don't like it when you talk to me like that can you please stop.  If you chose not to I will have your phone..... I will walk out the room......I will put you in time out ..... We are not punching bags but human being that need respect
  • If I get a complaint for any child about a job they have been given I give them another one.  They learn fast!
  • If I feel negative I read some inspiring quotes or I read a motivational book. 
  • Phone someone.  A problem shared is a problem halved.
  • Get out of the house on your own once a week.  I know this can be had a certain times of life but I know it can be achieved.  One thing that worked for me when I had very young children was to swap babysitting with another mum.  This meant we both got out once a week. I found I had to schedule time so I became a priority
  • Take time to seek to understand before you try to be understood.   (This is one of Steven Covey's principles.) Just by understanding people your attitude can shift.
  • Plan successes in your life.....don't plan to fail. Make small goals and stick to them
  • Learn what drains you.  My biggest drain in being disorganised.  The more organised I am the more positive I am.  Work out what is your biggest drain in your life and make a change.
  • Serve others.  I can be much more positive when I help others.
  • Learn to say no to unimportant things.  Just focus on what gives true happiness and true fulfilment

What do you do to stay positive?

1 comment:

  1. It is so hard to remain positive sometimes because, like you said, some days it seems like everything negative is being thrown your way. I always have to stop and remind myself that there is always something that I can be grateful for. That keeps me from falling into a spiral where I feel like there is nothing good in my life. It has made all the difference in how I approach everything about life and its many challenges.