How does one reach goals? especially challenging ones. I find this a very hard question to answer especially when I don't know where to start. I would really love to make a go of making a business from my art work but I don't know where to begin.
I sat down to figure out what things were stopping me from trying to achieve this goal and finding out where to start. The biggest reason was I could find was fear. Fear of failure, fear of not being able to do it, fear of not having enough time to meet my goals, fear of inadequate skills and fear of rejection.
Fear is a really hard thing to overcome. As a child the fear of a monster under the bed can be almost debilitating. Fear is our bodies way of showing caution for a new experience. But when fear takes over it can be very hard to let go of that fear and work though it. I still have not worked through a fear of being locked in dark spaces or pinned down after my brother locked me in a cupboard as a young child. I still irrationally cannot cope when someone sits on me and can't move or when I play hide and seek and the cupboard door I am in closes tight and I can't get out. Starting a quilt business is a bit like this fear for me, quite irrational but understandable.
In what ways can I overcome this fear? I spent some time thinking about other fears I have had and how I have overcomed them. I use to be scared of the dark and being home on my own and night but I seemed to have worked through these ones. So I wrote a list of what I did to get rid of these fears.
I was surprised to see how well this list idea worked. Now I wonder what other things I can help myself with.?
I sat down to figure out what things were stopping me from trying to achieve this goal and finding out where to start. The biggest reason was I could find was fear. Fear of failure, fear of not being able to do it, fear of not having enough time to meet my goals, fear of inadequate skills and fear of rejection.
Fear is a really hard thing to overcome. As a child the fear of a monster under the bed can be almost debilitating. Fear is our bodies way of showing caution for a new experience. But when fear takes over it can be very hard to let go of that fear and work though it. I still have not worked through a fear of being locked in dark spaces or pinned down after my brother locked me in a cupboard as a young child. I still irrationally cannot cope when someone sits on me and can't move or when I play hide and seek and the cupboard door I am in closes tight and I can't get out. Starting a quilt business is a bit like this fear for me, quite irrational but understandable.
In what ways can I overcome this fear? I spent some time thinking about other fears I have had and how I have overcomed them. I use to be scared of the dark and being home on my own and night but I seemed to have worked through these ones. So I wrote a list of what I did to get rid of these fears.
- I didn't dwell on the fear
- I wrote down my fears
- I tried to experience the fear with someone else supporting me
- I made myself do the thing I feared so I gave myself an opportunity to try to overcome the fear
- I talked about it with a friend and my hubby
- I celebrated the successes.
- I shared my success with my friend and hubby
- I kept challenging myself until I could regularly go into the dark on my own.
- I kept my imagination from running overtime.
I was surprised to see how well this list idea worked. Now I wonder what other things I can help myself with.?
Hi Catherine. Dion Dior recommended you and I'm really tickled to read your blog. I, too, blog about a business I'm trying to start (emphasis on trying) and appreciate your ideas about the fear. I agree 100%. I saw your comment about LDS temples. Are you LDS? I am, and I am so grateful for the Church. I hope you will check out my blog and let's support each other in our dreams? whole-heartedart.blogspot.com. Thanks!
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